Just because you are nice to a woman, does not mean your are entitled to her affections...
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Can we find him and make him POTUS?!
Be a good human, don't put on that facade to only gain a woman's attention. If I am already not showing you interest, nothing in your "niceness" will change my mind. The only thing that I will think is, "Huh, he's sweet." ...that's it and I will move on about my day.
I won't take anything more from a nice guy's behavior, but I also don't want the nice guy to deplete all his efforts into me when I am not available or willing to give him the same. It's one thing to become a friend who I can count on and who I can converse to without it being awkward, it's another thing to be a man who's waiting on a weak moment to make his move on me. This is why I am always hesitant to make male friends, I never really know their true intentions, especially the ones who revealed their feelings towards me in the beginning.
Yet, even if I do not adhere to his advances, it doesn't mean he should revert to being an asshole towards me. — And if you are the type of man to go toe-to-toe with a woman, then what type of man are you really??
Moving on, let's refer to the song, "Don't Be Cruel" by Bobby Brown and some of the lyrics...
Ohhhh, girl
As long as I've been giving my love to you
You should be giving me your love too
But you just keep on actin' just like a fool
You know it ain't cool
Girl, I work so hard for you from 9 to 5
So you could have the finer things in life
Since you're the kind that's never satisfied
YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO TREAT A WOMAN LIKE SHE IS THE GREATEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU!
Okay to be fair, the song is more about a man and a woman, presumably in a relationship or maybe the early stages of dating, so there could be reasons why he is doing the most for this woman. Either way, a good man is a good man all around, not just for the sake of a woman. If he wants to extend his expectations, so be it but, don't get upset at the woman because of something you decided to do to make her happy and she didn't seem to appreciate it.
(Don't worry fellas, my next post is about the Expectations of a Woman, and trust me, my thoughts on that are more exhaustive.)
If you feel you are not being appreciated or she does not show you the same qualities, THEN WHY ARE YOU STILL THERE? This is no different than a woman giving her all to a man who doesn't deserve it. Move it along and find someone who shares your same views on relationships and love.
For me, the only thing I expect from any man is understanding and respect of my space, that is the minimum for a potential husband.
Now, if a man does graduate to become my spouse or a serious partner at the very least, then my expectations will be a little more, because I will expect him to consider me in his decisions if we are planning to build a future together. I would expect for him to be side by side with me in maintaining stability for our present state and for whatever future goals we have. This includes, but not limited to, location of main residence, type and function of residence, financial allocations, parenting tactics, involvement in social activities, charity or volunteering, retirement goals, vacation plans, and the list goes on.
I will agree it is harder to get into a relationship now because the make-up of the man has changed mainly because the make-up of the woman has evolved. Everything that I am doing in my life right now, I don't want to stop, I want to expand on it. Make more money, travel more, have more time to facilitate with friends and family. If a man can add upon that, then GREAT but, even if he is willing to do that for me, doesn't mean I am owed him anything due to his willingness. Nor will I jump at the opportunity to take advantage of his generosity....again, 'Expectations of a Woman' in the next post.