Generally, men aren't slow and they can comprehend what you tell them;
He just doesn't think in the same way you do. You can easily misunderstand his thoughts or over exaggerated his actions to appease your insecurity about him.
We all know, I don't date but, I still come across men who tend to mislead women...sometimes not intentionally. Some are unaware of the affect they can have on women. Or maybe they are very aware and still don't feel any remorse to heartbreak, especially if they never asked a woman to be his lady. Again, men do not think like we do, many times they act without thinking and leave us wondering, "What the hell is his doing?!"
Yes, fellas, I am usually hard on you guys but, I can still see the goodness in you...some of you. Women do attach themselves to someone who they can see a potential future with. We formulate an imaginary story of our lives together, hey, I never denied that we are crazy; we are. 😊 And we do bend our "limitations" for a man we really like. We allow certain things that may not sit well with us to continue and cover it up with his sweet words or generous acts. His simple words and actions help us overlook the concerns we have...yet it still doesn't lead us to a healthy relationship.
You cannot accept that he has not claimed you as his girlfriend. You cannot accept that he doesn't call you everyday. You cannot accept that he doesn't check up on you. You cannot accept that he doesn't make plans with you. You cannot accept that he does not do for you in the same capacity that you do for him....BUT, you still hold on to him?
You go through the process of showing him how good of a woman you are, how caring you can be, how much you consider him, and that you are willing to drop everything to come to his rescue. Of course he will still allow you to cater to him and he will do what little he has to do to keep you holding on for hope. He is getting all the benefits of being your boyfriend, without being your boyfriend.
Ladies, why do many of us fall victim to this? Why are some of us not willing to accept that he doesn't want a girlfriend or more painful to accept that he just doesn't want YOU specifically? Men have their preferences also. You can do everything in the world that makes him smile, but if he does not feel that you are not the one, then you have to understand that. And he can tell you that he doesn't want a relationship, just to spare any insult you may feel if he told you that he's just not that into you...then you see him months later publicly kissy faced with a woman...a woman who is not you.
It's OKAY ladies. He wasn't the one for you either. It just took you longer to let it set in.
☝☝☝ This is the problem ladies.
Yes, you should do the best you can for people and maybe do a little more for those you care about but, if you are only doing it in exchange for him to pay more attention to you and drop to his knees with the perfect ring, then it may not turn out they way you planned. You cannot dictate someone else's future, even when you are mapping out your own. If you want to do the most for him, okay, then do so but, don't get heartbroken when he doesn't reciprocate your affections into someone he wants to share his life with.
Walk the path you intended for yourself. One day you'll look over and notice someone walking that same path, and guess what, it won't be a hassle for him to intertwine his journey with yours.
Love is hard. We can't predict it. We are unaware when it happens and it consumes our logical thinking. Why do we do it?....because humans are meant to love and be loved.
It's that "be loved" part that is a bit convoluted. And yet, we still entertain the idea of it because it's one of the greatest emotions to have. 😞😟