Ladies, Stop It

“If you’re looking in on me, enjoy the view.”

Apparently, you all like it when I talk my shit. My last post got record views. I’m not going to go overboard with it but I'll sneak it in here and there. I’m confident, but I also want to maintain humility because at any moment something can happen and all my blessings go away, so I want to be grateful and full of love.

Let's get into this and ladies you may not like to hear some of the things I’m going to say but it needs to be said. So I've had this feeling for a while but I never paid it much attention because it doesn't stop anything I'm doing or want to do. There’s a young lady who doesn't like me because of a man (I know right? This already sounds childish and stupid). I recently found out that she has a fake social media page 🙄 and has been using it to see what I’m doing, who I’m with, and what I talk about. And baby, let me tell you something, you are not going to find anything to confirm any suspicions you may have of me. My social media platforms are purely for entertainment. I don't know if this girl created her fake profile because of me or if this is just something she does, either way, it's stupid. Ladies, if you do things like this, stop it. 🛑 ✋🏽 Your insecurity is showing and it's being loud.

When you do sneaky things like that even if you don't tell anyone or admit it to anyone, there's an internal issue that you are battling whether it's trust issues with your partner or lover, or you're secretly praying on someone’s downfall, that’s something you have to work on. If you are threatened or intimidated by a woman, it's not going to ease your mind by trying to see what she’s doing, especially if it’s me you're checking on.

And with this young lady, supposedly she's supposed to be mature and has her mind right, and isn't petty or vindictive, but yet she's doing things like this. Good luck with that baby girl. I know you've got some growing to do still and you’ll get passed this phase in your life, you’ll learn to make better decisions, you're just in your feelings right now whether you want to admit or not. And it's okay. But you're not going to find anything that will fix your issues through me.

People have so many misconceptions of me. One of my friends thought I've been dating a certain guy that I’m not even interested in or attracted to. So I know I’m being discussed amongst my friends, even though the information is inaccurate, unless they ask my directly, I’m not bothered by what they may speculate. And I know they speculate a few things about me because they know I'm private and don't openly discuss everything with everyone, but again, if they ask me directly, I'll tell them.

But when it comes to women who don't know me or who aren't in my circle, it can get a little messy with what they assume of me and use a false narrative to speak badly about me. I’m going to talk some shit for a little bit. I can easily be that woman who doesn’t care if he's with someone, if I want him, I’ll have him even if it's just for one night. I can easily be that woman who makes your man start acting funny with you. I could easily be that woman who tells your man to come see me after he takes you home. I can easily be that woman who your man still thinks about and checks up on, and with this last one I may be that woman to some ones relationship because I know I leave a lasting impression on people. Being that type of woman would fit my lifestyle right now to be honest, but I choose not to do those things.

Also, if a man is going to sleep with other women, there's really nothing you can do or say to stop it. Men have different minds and intentions when it comes to women. Just like I said if I wanted to I will if I wanted a man for the night, a man can be the same way. Baby, don't let that man meet me on the right night, especially if he's attractive, smells good, dresses modestly, and knows how to flirt with me and make me blush. And let’s hope that man isn't someone else's man, because I will let him go swimming! 💦

One of my friends says I'm a problem because he's seen me interact with men when we’re hanging out together and he tells me that I can have a man interested in me by how I speak and present myself and ready to take me home and all I have to do is just say the word, but I never do. 🤦🏽‍♀️😄 He says I give these men false hope because they're thinking that they are making an impression on me when I'm just really passing the time while my friend is flirting with a woman at the end of the bar. So really, I could use my powers for evil, but I try to do good. And I don’t know what’s going on these days, but men just don't know how to talk to me. Just talk to me like a normal person. I’m getting so tired of people saying, “Oh, you're just too pretty”, “You intimidate men”, “You make people nervous”…STOP! Just talk to me, but don't assume that you're taking me home because of a good conversation, yes there's always that possibility, but don’t expect it.

I'm going to talk some shit again… Ladies if you're dating a guy and you're not too secure about your relationship status you're definitely not going to be secured if he's sitting near me and having a conversation with me. I've learned be default that I don't really put anyone’s self-esteem at ease and it's not because of something I’m doing on purpose, it's just that I’m very personable, and this is where the speculation and misconceptions come from. Someone may see me having a chat with a man and assume I’m with him, then they share that with other people and those people develop assumptions and then a friend comes to me and tells me that the friend group thinks I'm dating a guy who I have no romantic interest in 🤦🏽‍♀️. And some men will use a rumor like that to tell women so they don't feel threatened by me 🙄. You hear how dumb all this is?

Moral of the story, 1. your insecurity isn't going to be fixed by lurking on my page through a private account. 2. If you're relationship isn't solid, it still won't be whether I’m around or not. 3. At any given point I can choose to sleep with a man whether or not he's already in a relationship, but I choose not to.

Be safe everyone.