This topic is going to be very short. In the last few years, I’ve really been able to assess what I want for myself and the list is very short, hence why this topic is short. Although, I do understand that there may be people who cannot give what I want and that’s fine. I’m not going to require, expect, or demand what you cannot give, just don’t expect from me what you cannot give back. Now, I'm a mature woman of a mature age, and at this stage in my life, if a man wants to be involved with me there's just certain things I want from him.
I want quality over quantity. We need to do more things and talk about more things other than sex and drinking. I want to know how you think, what your values are, how you handle conflicts, and what you believe is the pursuit of happiness. My friend explained to me that some men may see me as unaproachable or unattainable because I do not carry myself as a one night type of woman. Like, I’m not one of those girls who takes a bunch of shots and end up in some random man’s bed. No, I’m the one who you realize within the first 10 mintues of talking to me that I have my shit together and like to be around people who have their shit together too. Being able to take care of yourself and manage the life you want or the life you have is and admirable quality (especially at the age we are) and it shows me that you not only have potential, but you are living up to your potential too. Ladies and gentleman, be very careful of the people who only have potential but, have nothing to show for it then end up leaning on you to develop their potential.
Let’s go out. I don’t always want to be in the house. I like to hang out and be social. We don't need be all up on each other and constantly in each other’s face. Just check on me and in between conversations and let’s laugh and have a good time and then go home. I just don’t want to sit in the house everyday.
State your intentions and do not deviate once we establish that understanding. I’ve got responsibilities and restrictions, and I expect a man of a mature age and stature to also have responsibilities and restrictions. Let’s be clear on those things and talk about what we want from each other and stick to it so we can act accordingly. We are too old to be going back and forth with mixed emotions and not knowing where we stand. Be clear with me about what you want and listen when I tell you what I want.
I'm not opposed to having parts of a relationship experience without the full relationship. I still want the effort, but I also understand that we can't always be available to each other because of other things in our lives that need our attention also. Communicate with me so I don't get a misunderstanding of what we are and what we’re doing.
Now, to those of you who have been reading or listening to my topics, I am not sure how my personality, my values, or my wants come across, but I got the following message from one of you:
Raya, I mean no disrepect by this, but you seem like you would be a perfect mistress for a married man.
How do I take this comment? Is this a compliment? Is this an insult? I know there have been a few topics on here talking about marriage and side relationships, but do I read as a woman who would make a good girlfriend to someone’s husband? Please, someone explain this to me.
Be safe everyone.
