Can you survive an open relationship?
Having an open relationship generally means you and your partner agree to date/sleep with other people without recourse. Could you be okay with this arrangement? Does this mean you don't love each other? Is there more chance of separating? What if your partner falls in love with the other person? What are the rules?
I do not think this is a "NEW" way of how relationships can function. I believed this has been an option (even if it is the last) and reality for many couples for many decades.
For myself personally, it is not in my make-up to be with someone other than my partner, yet do I think my partner should practice the same discipline? Ideally, yes.
In a recent post I stated:
"All I ask of my partner is to be good to my health and my heart. However he translates that or acts on that is on him. As my husband, I expect a man to handle me as his wife, a woman who he placed on a high pedestal and who he promised to love, cherish, and protect."
Read full post HERE.
What a man is not going to do is have our lives play out like a reality tv show where I can clearly see him kissing face with someone else. No sir, you can pack your shit now! Some men are out here creating new relationships while still involved in one. The moment you begin to invest into someone else is the same moment your home begins to crack.
With a celebrity reference, a Hip-hop artist mentioned that his wife said, "It's not the cheating that hurts, it's the type of bitches he cheats with."
We can translate this is many ways...
Yes, it is a bit questionable when a man decides to entertain a woman who is completely opposite from his wife. The wife may wonder why he would be attracted to someone who does not have her same values or qualities. But, think about it; he married her for those characteristics; gallivanting with someone of the same nature would be more threatening, No?
Similar to my past, the man I was with for many years invested in someone who was not like me at all. I did not see the attraction but, over time I cared less and less about this ordeal and let them go off on a journey together while I ventured on to a better life. Men, you cannot give 2 women at the same time the same promises. You are setting the tone completely wrong...hence my last post.
And, Ladies, you cannot control a man with your pu**y. As good as it may be, there are plenty of other women throwing it to him. The defining character will be the caliber of man HE IS. Is he a man of messiness or a man of thoughtfulness? Messy men bring home distractions, babies and, other women to your doorstep. Thoughtful men bring home conversation, love, and attention.
Granted, wrong is wrong and once the vows are said, no one should be stepping outside their marriage but, I am going to be aware of other possibilities. The issue is, how do you stop from emotions getting involved?
Regardless of what a Husband and Wife decide to do, the Love and the Home should never be at risk. The moment your Peace is compromised, there is a problem. *And there are many people who do not know how to truly fortify their marriages. These are the ones that fail.
Raya Laephuang
Writer | Photographer | Intrigued with Human Behavior
“I read the world around me.”