Here is another 2022 topics that I am resurfacing. If you read through or listened to “Making Up” and “I Wish a Man Would” then you will already know that I am not sure what was going on with my life around that time to write these topics because I have a little bit of short term memory issues due to some trauma I faced.
I think with this topic in particular I asked my female readers to share details about what they like during sex, so here is a summary of those answers. And if you were one of the people who answered these questions back in 2022, are you preferences still the same? Talk to me. 👀
1. Lights On or Off?
67% preferred the lights off, but those of you who like the lights on said you like for a man to look you in the eyes while he’s swimming in your pool. — I’m okay with the lights on to…dimmed lights or accent lighting.
2. Top or Bottom?
82% prefer to be on the bottom because you like for the man to maintain control, but some of you also mentioned that him “throwing” you on top is also big d*ck energy…Yeah, I agree. 🍆💦
3. Oral: Giving or Receiving?
Interestingly, this was almost split down the middle. Some of you are saying you don’t like receiving because most men don’t know what they are doing, so you prefer to be the giver. One of you said, “If he don’t make my eyes roll back, I’m getting up and leaving.” 😂 Someone else said, “I guide him to it, so he doesn’t have an option.” What?! 😂 I’m 50/50 on this question, you give, I give. 👅
4. Backshots? (Non-anal)
A good 92% are all for the backshots. Most of you seem to like it when you’re in missionary position and he takes it out for a second, flips you around, pushes your back down and slides it back in for a few minutes while gripping your hips and ass cheeks…Yeah, that’s a great move.💢💦
5. Anal?
72% of you say that is an exit only. — I prefer not to comment on this one. 🤐
6. Open to threesomes or orgies?
59% say they have not done either, me included. Although, most of you would rather do a threesome than an orgy, I tend to agree with this, but not with two men, that’s too much masculinity for me. One of you said that you went to an Eyes Wide Shut party with your partner and you didn’t engage with multiple people, but you did have sex with your partner in front of other people. I’ve only told one person about my thoughts on going to one of these parties, but again the whole “Good Girl” persona in me feels that a man may look at me differently if I do attend one, even if I am only doing things with him. Then again, he’d probably look at me differently too if I agree to a threesome. 🙈🙊🙉
7. Talking During Sex?
Almost everyone answered, Yes, talking during sex is a must and a turn on. You ladies like hearing a man tell you how good it is, ask you questions, compliment you, and moan. I like all this this too, it’s kind of like having live commentary to keep the momentum going. 💬 One of you said during sex your boyfriend tells you the 🐱 is his and that you better not ever think about giving it away to anyone but him. 👀💦…yeah, I can see how hearing can be a turn on. 😆
8. Hair Pulling, Choking, Slapping, Biting, Nipple Stimulation, etc.
Some of you were really explicit with your answers. For the most part, a lot of you like for men to take control of your body. — This is another one that I won’t share my comments on 🤐, but I’ll say this much, I do like soft body kisses especially on my thighs. Aye, you’ve seen my pictures, I’ve got thighs for days.💋
9. Sex in other places outside the bedroom.
I really liked some of your answers, like pulling into a parking garage or hidden road to go at it in the car. Or on the dining room table while people are upstairs sleeping. One of you ended up on the stairs because the lust was just too strong that you never actually made it to the bedroom. To the one who said the elevator…I have still many questions for you, sis. 👀👀👀
10. The Aftermath
Most of you said you like to lay there and be silent for a little while. Yet, all of you said you like when a man “wipes you down with a washcloth” afterwards. There were a few of you that said you like to talk each other about what you just did, like a recount of the events so you know what was good for him and you tell him what was good for you. I think I am somewhere in the mix of being quiet and talking afterwards. I do like to reassure a man when he does things I like and yes, the wipe down right after is top tier. 🤌🏽
11. What gets you aroused to have sex?
These answers had a lot of details too. You broads are all freaks! 😂 Most of you like the teasing and touching back and forth before sex. One of you told about a night where you and your boyfriend were at a bar sitting in the back area. It was dark and he had his hand up your dress playing with your 🐱 while his tongue was down your throat. Another woman said she was in the VIP section sitting on the couch between her boyfriend’s legs while he sitting on the back of the couch and he had his hand down her dress playing with her nipples and when he noticed another man looking her, he grabbed her neck with his other hand, leaned down, and started kissing her 👀. Whew, chile!!! I guess I’ve been dealing with the wrong type of men because I would love for a man to do that with me. 💦
12. What is something you will not do for a man?
This question was a little vague so you could answer however you saw fit. Some of you listed off your standards. For instance one woman stated she will not get involved with a man who has a child under 5 years old…I can see why that can be an issue for a relationship. Another said, she won’t deal with a man who has roommates...I agree with this one too. If you don’t have your own personal place, we’re not going to spend all our time at my place. Other answers were sex related and were about what you won’t allow such as threesomes, anal, or being tied up.
Here is my answer: I don’t think there is not too much I will not do if the man if treating me right and making me feel appreciated. This all goes back to my thoughts on being submissive or being more willing to appease a man’s wishes if he is doing right by me. But there is one thing I am not too open to do unless I am fully comfortable with a guy. — I won’t sleep over a man’s place. When I was younger, it wasn’t a big deal, but now that I’ve developed certain idiosyncrasies, I’m not too eager to sleep in a man’s bed. I think it’s the thought of him having other women in his bed (I know it shouldn’t even be an issue, but I’m just weird like that.) I don’t know when he last washed his sheets, if he has a mattress protector, when the last time he bought new pillows…all of that. I told you folks before, I am a 1 man girl, regardless of the situation, I don’t entertain multiple people at one time. I also make sure I take a few months to myself before I even consider sleeping with a new man, so there isn’t going to be any type of residue or essence of more than one guy in my place, if any at all. Plus, I wash my bedding weekly anyway. Not only that, I also don’t want to carry an overnight bag with extra clothes, face wash, toothbrush, etc. And I have my morning routines, coffee, breakfast, or sometimes I’ll just lay around and watch tv before starting my day. So if he doesn’t like to do any of that, then I have to get up early, drive back home and redo my morning. Unless we are co-sharing our spaces, I’m not staying over.
Whew…I love it when you guys give me something to talk about or think about. Really, my website wouldn’t be as exciting if I didn’t allow open dialogue with all of you.
Be safe everyone.
