“Cheers To Love”
I am going to make this short, because HAPPY NEW YEAR and you all may have other plans. Usually I have my topics already completed days before I actually post them, but as I am typing this on NYE, I have not decided what I want to do tonight. My energy is a little off and I don’t know if I want to go out with my friends or just stay in and watch the fireworks from my window. But since you are here, I appreciate you taking the time to be here for a few moments. What did Jay-Z say? “You could've been anywhere in the world. But you're here with me. I appreciate that.” (Sidebar: I know Jay-Z started to face some of Puffy’s issues, I’m not saying I believe or do not believe anything, I’m just going to say this: Fellas and Ladies, do not ever think that anything you’ve done in your past won’t be brought up again. Don’t take advantage of people, don’t play with people’s emotions, don’t play with people’s time, and don’t play with people’s money, know the difference between age-appropriate and age-inappropriate relations and relationships and what goes on in those relationships, and lastly, be cognizant of how damaging your decisions can be to others and to yourself.)
There’s always these affirmations that tell us to leave people alone if they are not giving us what we are giving them, and then there are affirmations that encourage us to give people love no matter if we get it back or not. - I more lean on this thought. This doesn’t mean I do not know my value, I absolutely know how amazing I am, I just don’t believe that I should do things with the expectation of getting anything back in return. I think I have been practicing this a lot this past year.
I always believe that when you have a giving heart, you get rewarded in so many other ways. Don’t get wrong, there are a few times where I’d like for someone I show love to show me the same love in return, but that’s not something I harp on and I don’t know what someone else’s beliefs are and everyone shows love differently. For instance, I know I said this before, if I cook for you, I care about you. It’s just something about preparing a meal for people who are dear to me makes me feel good. Or if you are hosting a party, I’m likely to help you clean up or makes sure everyone is comfortable and has what they need. For someone else, they may show love by introducing me to people who can help me in my career, or someone may show love by just calling and checking in on me, or someone may invite me out to a special event because they want to share that time with me and want me to enjoy myself.
There’s a lot of people I care about and I make my best attempts to let each person know in one way or another that they are a part of my “care circle”.
I don’t belive in new years resolutions, because I feel it you want to make a change or do something different then why wait until January? Do it today, do it now. But if you are a new years resolution type of person and you want to feel good about something or feel good about yourself, then my best suggestion is show people you care about them, show up for them, show them patience, support them, praise them, forgive them, reach out them, sometimes the smallest gestures make the biggest difference to a person.
Happy New Year Everyone, and be safe.
