In the last topic I mentioned I like small discreet acts of affection from a man. Discretion is not only a strategy, it’s an art form. People may see that you have chemistry with someone, but you don't need to double down on that and show all types of PDA to everyone. Relax. If you like someone and that someone likes you, there's no need to be extra about it in public. But if that's what you like or if that’s how you are, don't let what I’m saying deter you from how you normally are. For me, I just don't need all the attention on me and my interaction or chemistry with someone.
Although, I do like when we can share intimate moments with each other when we are in public, like saying things to each other that no one else would get or understand. Or doing small gestures with one another that we don’t do with anyone else. Here’s the thing when you are involved with someone beyond a platonic friendship, you're exposing each other to elements of yourselves that no one else knows or sees and being able to discreetly share that connection while being around other people without making it obvious is what I like.
As social as I may be, I’m still a private person and I prefer a private man. I love it when a man knows he wants me and expresses that to me and I love it even more if he knows to still express that same feeling and sentiment when we’re in a crowded space. You know how to can lock eyes with someone without saying a word but you know exactly what each other is thinking? Or when you quickly glance at someone and you just automatically feel the admiration for each other. That's the type of intimacy that I’m talking about. That type of intimacy can’t be forced, because there has to be a blanket of understanding, growth, love, maturity, and subtleness.
I don’t need a man to be loud about me. He doesn't always need to be right next to me or always focus his conversations towards me, but I do want a man be about me. Meaning, I would like a man to look out for me, be tender with me, protect my character, clap for me, and not bring any confusion, drama or chaos to my life. And the only time he should be aggressive towards another man around me is if that other man is making me feel uncomfortable or is being agressive towards me. Other than that, there are subtle and discreet ways we can be towards each other in public that let’s us know we’re paying attention to each other with avoiding our surroundings.
I'm of a certain age and although my circles are made of various age groups, my interests are years ahead of me, not because I’m looking to be taken care of, but because my topics of preferred conversation requires a certain level of experience and maturity. Does that make sense? And like I said in the last topic, if people know who I'm spending my private time with, then they know. If you ask me, I may say something like, “Yeah, we’ve been hanging out lately” but I’m just not going to announce it or share details of what we do or say during our intimate moments, that is our time, those are our moments. And say for instance if a person doesn't know who I'm hanging out with and say the man I’m spending my private time with is sitting next to me, and someone around us asks me if I’m fooling with someone, I may say, “Yeah, I have a personal friend, I just spoke to him and I saw him yesterday.” Not revealing that I’m talking about the man sitting right next to me. And he doesn't even have to be around for me to respond to questions like that. That's just how I am with my private life. If you know you know, if you don’t, you don’t.
If you happen to see me and my special friend out somewhere whispering to each other or locking eyes with each other or if you happen to overhear some of our comments towards each other, then hey think what you want to think, we’re grown over here. You all are over there with your business, let this be our business.
Be safe everyone.
