This is an extension of the last post about a man knowing how to lead. When a man knows how to lead and a woman knows how to follow, she naturally reverts to her feminine side and her softer side. For me when a man I like or a man I’m attracted to, when he takes charge, I immediately paused and think, “Oh, this man is about to handle me!” And then I have less than point two seconds to decide if I’m going to let him or not.
I’ve said time and time again, I’m a very strong minded woman and it takes a certain type of man to really pull out a more feminine and docile side of me. But when that side of me comes out, it’s like a different version of me and only he gets to see that version of me. The rest of them get what they get. And every woman has this side of her. Fellas, you've got to be THAT MAN to bring out her softer side. Every man can't do it, just like how every man can't lead. Ladies, just because a man is interested in you doesn't mean he’ll know how to lead you, don’t get caught up in the compliments or the superficial actions. Pay attention to what he does and what he shows you beyond the bare minimum.
I am willing to be soft for a man when I see that he's treating me differently and making me feel like I’m important to him or special to him. You can tell when a man admires you, he doesn't just say it, his aura and demeanor around you will show it. He’ll make sure you're comfortable, he’ll check on you, he’ll only say certain things to you that he won't say to someone else, especially when you're out and around other people. There will be significant things that he'll he’ll only do or say with you.
And ladies, it’s not about us giving up our power or independence, it’s about noticing when a man is noticing us and wants us to not feel the need to be so guarded and by ourselves. It’s about letting him take the role of a man and showing us what a man can do to add value and vibrancy in our lives. And I'm talking to all the women who's had to do everything on their own for most of their lives, baby I’m one of you. I know how hard it is to relax your shoulders and allow a man ease out that tension you’ve been carrying, but as women, we’re not meant to always carry everything, even if we’ve become good at doing it. Let that man relax you and make you smile and in return, show him how feminine and soft you can be.
A mature and grown man will know his value and knows how to distinguish a well rounded woman, he will cherish the person you are and not want to change you, but rather elevate and add to you. A man who hasn't figure himself out yet or is having some self awareness issues will fall into the trap of liking the attention from a low level woman who makes him think he's a king because he won't acknowledge the fact that she has limited or no other options. (That may go over some of your heads, so I’m not going to go further into that thought 😶). I’m just saying, there's a difference between a woman who knows who she is and a woman who's still trying to figure out her identity. And there's a difference between a man who can see that in a woman.
I’d like to be involved with a man who knows who he is and has confidence with his identity, because one thing about me is that I love a confident and dominant man. A man who's dominant in the right ways, to where he is not controlling, overbearing, but he knows how to settle me and treats me with the type of care and gentleness that leads me to pulling out my more softer and docile side.
I feel like when a woman is able to bring out her feminine side, she's also able to make a man feel at peace and make him feel like there’s no one like him or that no other man can have the same place in her heart that he has. When a man can do that for a woman and make her comfortable enough to not be so brazen, I feel like she will transverse that same sentiment and energy for a man and multiply it. Because women are fruitful, what you give to us we give it back in abundance. What do you think?
Be safe everyone.
