Okay ladies, this one is for you, so fellas take notes. I already started in the previous topic that I like when a man still reaches out to me when he is busy or has a lot going on, because I like knowing that I am being thought of even if he knows he won’t be able to see me until he has more free time. I don’t like being just an object of appearance, let me know you like me for more than how I look.
Now let me share what you ladies sent to me:
Vivica: I’ve been dating a guy for 3 months. The second week in, I mentioned that I needed to get my car cleaned and detailed, but I needed to make time to do it. A few days later, he sent me a text letting me know that he had scheduled an appointment for me at a detailing shop and that he had already taken care of the cost!
Cari: I had a bad day at work one time and I told my man about it. We did not live together at the time. When I got home he popped up with flowers and wine. But what really got me was he didn’t stay, he just came in, made me dinner, and left. That’s when I knew I was going to love that man.
Sonny: I like when a man hypes me up when I talk about my goals.
Chloe: When a man cooks, that’s top tier.
Megan: One time I was at a work lunch and I was a guest speaker. I was nervous. There was a good looking man sitting next to me at the table. I made small talk with him earlier. He noticed I was fidgeting my hands under the table. He reached over and held my hand steady and said, “You will do just fine.” We just celebrated our 2 year anniversary last month.
Lauren: I was having girls night. We got a section with 2 bottles. All the guys kept getting us shots and more drinks, except one man sent over an order of wings, fries, and water. He ended up being a guy that one of my girlfriends was hooking up with. I like when a man looks out for his girl and her friends.
Aliyah: I got the flu earlier this year and told my boyfriend we couldn't hang out until I got better because I didn’t want to get him sick too. You know what this man did? He came over and brought me soup. He drew me a hot bath to help my fever, then he washed my bed sheets, made my bed and gave me medicine before I went to sleep.
Nikka: I had just broken up with my boyfriend a few weeks before I passed the LSTATs. We hadn't spoken since we broke up, but we always talked about our career goals. We he heard I passed the exam, he sent me flowers and got Chipotle delivered to my apartment with a note saying how happy he was for me. We didn't get back together but I really like that he remembered how important this was for me.
There seems to be a common theme here. Even with the messages I didn't share because there were just so many, but the commonalities are that women love it when a man pays attention to them and contributes to their health and well-being, this includes the mental health too.
I keep talking about efforts, and all these messages just proves that effort goes a long way and leaves a lasting impact. So fellas, if you're here, take some notes. When we say we don't want much, we don’t mean we just want to bare minimum. No, show us something to let us know you care and you want us to be good. Don’t do something with a motive of getting something back. If I do for you, I’m not necessarily expecting you to do the same back and I’m not keeping tabs. If you're a decent person, you'll do for me too in your own ways and in your own time.
These days men and women tend to be so divisive on who should be doing what. I don’t get into all of that. If you like me and you care for me, then something in your heart, your soul, your spirit will want you to stay connected with me and your actions will follow, even if it seems like a small gesture, the effort of maintaining that connection with me, especially if we are both feeling each other or sharing a nice vibe or interested in each other in some way, because if only one person is interested then the effort isn’t going to hit much, but if we are digging each other then your ways of keeping connected with me is a beautiful act of respect, care, and admiration.
Be safe everyone.
