Ladies and gentlemen, the last few weeks have been full, but let me catch up with you all. How are you? Is everyone good? How’s the weather over there? Are you ready for the holiday season? Life has been good lately, well, life is always good, but I’ve been really steady the last few months. And I think it has a lot to do with just being at ease with myself and everything around me. I don’t find reason to fuss, complain, or add stress to myself, and I try to be conscious not to bring any of that towards anyone else either… I’m just not for childish behaviors or ways of thinking, and what I mean by that is that life and the world I created is for me, just like the life and world you created is for you and it doesn’t have to be perfectly aligned with each other, but I can respect and appreaciate what you’ve done for yourself and I would like that same respect and appreciation for me too.
Think of a Venn diagram, how different items overlap one another to show the connections. I created one to show you how I set my life up. I’m a very visual person, so there’s me in the middle of it all, and all my other elements that make up my world are connected to me, some are connected to each other, and some are connected to more than one element, but each circle represent a different part of me and who I am, my personality, my character, my responsibilites, my purpose to everything. And at any point, if that pink circle fcks up, it affects all the other circles. Realistically, anything we do affects everything that is part of us, but I would rather make a good decision and have a great outcome over a bad decision with a horrible outcome. Does this make sense?
I cannot afford to be childish or act in a poor manner. Although what I feel about certain things is still valid. I can still be upset, disappointed, and frustrated, but how I act on those feelings is important and can be a reflection of how people perceive me and how they respond towards me moving forward. We cannot always react without thinking first. And I’ll be transparent and admit that there have been times I’ve reacted poorly and the outcome wasn’t the best, and I ended up feeling worse afterwards. I do my best not to put myself in that space again. So I give myself time to reflect, collect my thoughts, and process what I’m feeling and why I’m feeling it before I address anything if in fact it needs to be addressed.
Now my social life is pretty vibrant, and I have a diverse group of people I enjoy being around and as much fun as I have with people, I still stay mindful of my decisions and actions. One bad night can ruin everything I worked hard for. It’s the same for my personal and private life. Even though I do not openly discuss the details of those parts of my life, I still need to be conscious of what I do and how I maintain that. It’s important for me that I am accountable and do my best to balance the different parts of my life.
I cannot control what others do or say, but I can control how much of what they do or say affects me. Now if I care about someone, what they do or say may have more of an impact on me over someone I don't have the same thoughts towards, but again, before I react or respond, I need to process everything.
Being grown and being an adult are two different concepts. And 18 year old is considered an adult, but it doesn’t mean that person is grown. As someone who wants to have positive experiences, I have to be mindful of not just myself and my surroundings, but also of who is within my surroundings and the types of people they are. Are the grown too or are they just adults? Are they the kinds of people who take accountability or do they deflect and push back the blame on others? Are they open to looking beyond themselves and consider how other people feel? Or are they the types of people who only want to feel good for themselves and everyone else is the problem? Think about this in your own life.
Be safe everyone.
