Are You Worth Changing My PH Balance For?

*Postings have been a little off schedule lately; normally live on Tuesday mornings, but I’m still getting a handle of my different schedules. Bare with me. 😬

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I made the decision late last year that I would not get intimately involved with anyone. I didn’t give myself a deadline on when I should get involved or what criteria a man should have before considering breaking my solidarity. If there is an impressive gentleman who comes my way or catches off guard, I’ll deal with my emotions and decisions then. But for now, it is a decision I made for myself for very personal reasons. Some of my friends know why and those who don’t know why always seem to ask me the following:

  • Don’t you get lonely?

  • What happens when you get into the mood?

“I'm So Pretty And He Like That” by King Manyara (Song is NSFW)

I feel like these are very simple answers. No I do not ever feel lonely, not because I have my family and friends, but because I enjoy my alone time and make the most of it even when I’m not doing much. And as far as getting into the mood….Ladies, c’mon. We know how to fix that and it doesn’t required another person. 😈

I'm not going to lie, ladies and gentlemen, there are times where I’d like to get a phone call or text message telling me to come out and enjoy the evening with him, but my phone is so dry that the only times it makes any noise is when my boss calls, one of my clients call, or when my classmates send me a message about an assignment. 😐

But I also feel that with people being casual with whomever and how many ever, I don’t need to be concerned about my health more than I have already been. And I definitely cannot allow bad energy in my life, nor can I accept for a man to take advantage of my willingness to understand and be a little laid back with some things other women may have an issue with.

I would definitely like having a male friend who I can be comfortable enough with to be in my underwear around him without him wanting to take it too far, like having the companionship with a man, but without the sex.

I’ve always thought sex as a personal and sacred connection with someone. That's not to say I’ve never had casual connections with people, I'm just not one who shares myself with many people. I know there are women who sleep with several different men within a short period of time, like a month, and I can't see myself doing that. And I don’t judge anyone who are more free with sex and people. Let your freak flag fly, but I rather have my freak flag fly in only 1 yard.

Because my shirt is a bit form fitting, someone asked, “Is that a kids shirt?” I said, “Yes, your daddy gave it to me because he calls me Baby.” 😈

P.S. - I want someone who can't keep his hands off me even when I act like I don't want him to. 😼

pH balance is referred to as an acid-base balance, it is the level of acids and bases in your blood at which your body functions best. It's important for women to maintain a healthy pH balance and ladies if you do not already know this, at different stages in our lives our pH balance changes due to other changes in our bodies. An unhealthy pH balance causes several uncomfortable things 😬 especially for your Hello Kitty and makes your girl down there feel sick 😫 🤒.

Men can affect your pH balance if they don't take care of themselves or are carrying residue and bacteria from other women. EWL. In chemistry, not all chemicals mix well. So with that in mind, I’m not so eager to share my Hello Kitty with anyone, she's more like a No No Kitty right now 😼. I’ll keep using my body washes and natural oils to keep my 🐱 healthy. And I cannot be sure if anyone else does the same, so I'm definitely not going to let some random man fck up my pH balance. — I sleep with him, then a few days later I’m feeling a little different. Uh, no Sir!

Bless their hearts, but men can be so disgusting with their hygiene routines. As beautiful of creatures they can be because there are some gorgeous men, Sorry HANSOME men, one of friends told me to stop calling men gorgeous. Not all soap is good soap and many of them don't have a skin care routine, they just use a wet rag on their face and go. So depending on how he keeps his man parts clean, my lady parts may or may not have a good reaction to him. But it’s not only how he cleans his body, it’s also what he puts into his body that can affect your inner chemicals further effecting mine. Be safe out there everyone.


Men Have The Audacity

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Let me start by saying I have just as many guy friends as I do girl friends, but there is usually an imbalance of who I hang out with more because I do not always agree with every woman’s common perspectives on men and relationships and my girl friends don’t usually like my input. — Ladies, sometimes we have to take some of the blame when relationships fail or if you are constantly looking for love, but love never finds you. There is a statement I saw that reads: “None of my exes are married or in happy relationships, so I know I wasn’t the problem.” - This may be true for some of you, but what about the latter? What if almost every ex you have went off and got married? Then does that mean YOU were the problem? I guess that would all depend on how many relationships you had, the longevity of each one, what transpired within the relationship, and what caused it to end.

BUT, let me get back on track…when men fck up, they fck up pretty bad, but downplay it like what they did wasn’t big deal. In the clip created by Jess Hilarious, it emphasizes a man being upset that a woman is possibly seeing other men. Then she responds to him by stating he has a NEWBORN. I think this information implies that the man was sleeping with other women while in some form of building or starting something with her, but he is making it seem like it shouldn’t be an issue.

A clip from comedian, Jess Hilarious.

Of course this is an exaggerated example, but it brings light to how men behave and still expect women to fall in line with their bad behavior. Okay, so you can go and have a child with another woman, but I have to be okay with it and still give you a chance? THE AUDACITY. It’s similar to him saying he’s interested in you, but then talks to other women and gets upset with you when you talk to other men, like you cannot dare do the same thing he’s doing.

Real Life Scenario: I was involved with someone and those of you who’ve been coming to this site a long time know I don’t entertain multiple people. So the guy and I are out one night having fun, enjoying the crowd and talking with people around us. I think nothing of it. It was a good night. But later on the guy mentions that I was acting different when another man came around (WHAT?). I was really trying to wrap my head around what he thought he saw and the actual reality of the situation which was we were have conversations with everyone around us and I didn’t change my body language in any way to make it seem like I was giving someone other than him special attention. In hindsight, that was an insecurity on his part. If he had an issue, he should have addressed it sooner than later because the sooner you address something, the better perspective you receive. I noticed he would casually bring things like this up, making assumptions I was talking to other men. It wasn't until later on I sensed he did this to justify himself, to deflect his poor behavior and lack of consideration for me because one time he let another woman be all over him! IN FRONT OF ME. It wasn’t one of those things where a man is dancing in the moment and just enjoying the atmosphere and a woman around him is doing the same. No, it was him letting this girl fondle all over him, sit on his lap like they were a couple and him just soaking it up and smiling about it. Fam, you do that on your own time, not when the woman you're sleeping with is around you. And then he acted like I was the one with an issue when I had an attitude about it. 🤨 — Okay Sir, be out here and clown all you want to. I told you men are stupid, right? Yeah, STUPID. This is why when you fck up with me, there’s no chance of you ever getting close to me again, so let’s hope that move was worth it. I wish you well and all the happiness the world believes you deserve.

Bralette: Savage x Fenty Collection

Never in my life have I ever had to approach a man so I definitely don’t feel I need to chase one. If a man is not attracted to me or does not see how great I am, that’s fine, I’m not going to force anything on him — and me questioning certain things isn’t forcing, it’s gaining clarity. Some men don’t know this difference and thinks a woman is pressuring him. Like when you bring up things that bother you he makes it seem like you're the one that's being a bother. 😐 Fam, I'm trying to communicate my feelings to you! And the kicker is they think you're trying to argue when it only becomes an argument when they get offended and want to turn it back on you. Because they don’t understand emotional intelligence and aren't able to process how their actions affect your feelings 🙄

On the other side of the male spectrum, you guys remember the young man I met and decided not to string him along? Well, he still reaches out to me now and then and every time he does I more and more realize he does not understand or want to understand everything I need to do to maintain my life. I’m not going to go into details and I know he means no harm because again, we are at different stages in life so he cannot relate to me and of course he won’t full grasp why I’m not always available. But every time he reaches out to me it’s a constant reminder of, “Girl, you don’t have time to explain it to him, just type LOL and go.” He will be a great partner for someone one day, but I’m not her and I’m not about to waste his time while also wasting my time.

I don't need attention from everybody. If I like you and want to build something with you, I only want attention from you. It would be great if men started to practice this type of thinking too. This is called Accountability over Audacity. Let’s all work on this.


Another One

Let’s try this again…differently.

Video Summary:

One of my friends helped me not feel so awkward recording myself. The funny thing is, I'm fine recoding my voice only, but when my face is on camera, I get nervous. So my friend was in a chat on my laptop and picked your questions at random for me to answer while my phone was recoding. It helped that it didn't seem like I was talking to myself.

  1. What is your type of guy?

    • Everyone has a type, if you don’t then you don’t have standards. You have to narrow down what you like otherwise you’re open to just anyone. My men have usually been talk, good grooming, nice teeth, and athletic build. I love a dapper man. As for character, I like him to be funny, fun to be around, I can be myself with him, not judgmental, and shows that he cares about me. 🤗 *Not mentioned in the video - I like when a man remembers or notices things about me that I don't even remember or notice. I like a man who pays attention. 😌

  2. Would you like a sugar daddy?

    • WHAT???!!! Who would ask this? 😂 NO THANK YOU!

  3. You have nice titties. (This is NOT a question. 😐 😑)

    • Thank you to whoever said that. I almost died for these. 😟

  4. Would you ever mess with a married man?

    • ABSOLUTLEY NOT. I have married friends and I respect their marriage. I also have friends that have special arrangements outside of their marriage and they way they do it still respects their spouses, so I do not pass judgment on them. I ended a long term friendship with someone who was in love with a married man, he was not married when they met, but the guy ended up marrying someone else and still kept talking to my exfriend. What really ended the friendship for me was how she was talking about the wife. You NEVER talk down on the spouse no matter what you are being told. And a man who is talking about his wife to another woman is garbage. You never know what is going on in a person’s marriage and there’s always another side to the story. Plus, I truly believe a woman knows who she marries, so the other woman thinking that she’s going to reveal any “surprises” to the wife isn’t doing anyone justice. If you are going to mess with a married man, have your fun and go, but don’t think you are replacing anyone in his life. 🤡 And might I add, even with people who are not married and are in another form of relationship, still a man who discusses his issues with a woman in a foul way is pure despicable. A relationship between two people, no matter the arrangements, still requires a veil of respect. A man who bad mouths a woman to other people, is a man who is unaware of himself.

  5. What is your skincare routine?

    • Nada. I don’t do anything special with my skin. I use a store bought cleanser and rosehip oil on my face at night. I also use satin pillow sheets which is good for your skin and hair. I still get blemishes and blackheads that I like to pick at (I know, it’s nasty). I even like to pick at other people’s blackheads. 🤓

  6. What is your favorite flavor hookah?

    • Which one of my friends asked this question? 😃 Because I feel like whoever asked this has hung out with me before. I like pairing mint with other flavors. I feel that mint makes the hookah taste more potent.

  7. What do you consider a perfect date?

    • A good date involves food and is during the day. If the date is going good then you can make plans for later. If the date is going bad then you can say you are busy later on. I like old silly traditions like bringing a girl flowers on the first date. *Not mentioned in the video - I don’t like movie dates unless you two have been together for some time already, but for the first few dates, I want to talk and get to know someone. 👩‍❤️‍👨

  8. What outfit do you suggest for a girls night?

    • Whether it is a girls night or a date night or just a night out, wear things that compliment you and highlight your best feature. I’m a legs girl so I’m usually showing thighs when I can. I also like some mystery, so if I am showing legs then I’m covering up in other places, but if you want to show it all, then go for it, whatever you feel great in. 💃

  9. What is you drink of choice?

    • Tito’s and lemonade or if I’m at my favorite bar, then Tea Time. 🥃

  10. What is your favorite sex position?

    • I was not comfortable answering this question. I like to look at you and gaze. I’m sensual and value that kind of intimacy. Other things can happen, but at some point I want our eyes to connect. 💦