I was scrolling through my social media feed and saw this...

I read a few comments that followed this and saw some backlash from women and men over this statement.  Yet, I cannot be sure if Trevor Noah actually said these words and I'm not one of those people that think...It's on the internet, he musta said it! 

Whether or not he said this, I can see some TRUTH in this statement. 

There are still a large number of women who believe it is their right or even responsibility to appease men in exchange for a "comfortable" life. Meaning keep looking gorgeous and keep up with his libido.  Instagram is full of beautiful women showing their "surface" to lure attention. I suppose we may be asking to much if we want these women to show another side of them like cooking, speaking in a motivational seminar, or volunteering in the community…I mean, that’s not sexy right? (Sarcasm people). Pretty images and sex relate to one another. Ladies, how many times have you seen an Hanes ad with a man only in his brief and think, “Yeah, I’d give it all to him.”   But men are not innocent in this either; you guys like to look as much as women like to show and there are men who are willing to spend the money to get the pretty trophy.

But let’s look into a deeper aspect. Oscar Wilde wrote in one of his books, “Woman love with their ears, just as men love with their eyes. If they ever love at all.” This thought has been rephrased over and over such as, “Women are emotional lovers and men are physical lovers.” etc.

Keep in mind, sometimes you get what you see. Yes, sometimes all it is is just a pretty face and a woman who expects to be a “kept woman”. Although fellas, if that is what you want, then don’t mind my thoughts.

Yet, sometimes you will run across an overly filtered picture and that pretty face isn’t what you recognize in real life….catfish anyone?

Personally, I never want to give a man the financial upper hand over me.  His money may be important, but so is mine.

For so long now, I have subconsciously been striving to not be part of this 90%  or whatever percent the truth is.  I don't have to make more money than a man or even have the same salary but, I do have to make enough money to obtain my own wants and needs.  And as for sex, that is our private business.

Yes, in general the sexes love differently, but it is only looks/sex and money that get us there? What is it that keeps us in a relationship or even “in love” for that matter? Comfort? Stability? Not wanting to start over? Fear of being alone? Tradition?

Raya Laephuang

Writer | Photographer | Intrigued with Human Behavior

“I read the world around me.”