One of you readers asked me the following question:

“What does it mean when my ex keeps checking up on me through other people, but he doesn't call or text me directly?”

I think this is another one of those silly things that men do. If you're over a woman, why do you keep checking up on her? And there may be several reasons. He may still genuinely care, but just wants to keep his distance. Or he may be trying to find his way back but just isn’t sure what your current situation is.

But, here’s the kicker. The reader also says that he has a current girlfriend! 🥴

We’re going to call the reader, “Ms. P”.

Ms. P says that he's been seen around with the same woman for quite some time now, but he is still asking about her. And she said that she thinks he has his friends checking her social media pages for him. Ms. P does tell me she is single and doesn't want to be involved in any mess that he might cause especially if he is in a relationship with someone. But, Ms. P, it may be one of those situations where his just passing the time with a woman but they're not really together. Relationship have so many dynamics these days, who knows who's together or not.

I asked her if she wanted her ex to reach out to her directly and I’m not going to reveal her answer but I will go on to say the following…

Someone indirectly keeping up with what you're doing could be some of the reasons I've already mentioned, but I think also, how you two ended things may play a part. Do you guys feel like everything that needed to be done and said was in fact done and said? Or do you feel there's still some open feelings there? It's hard to really say why someone keeps checking up on you after things have ended unless you ask them and even then they may not really tell you.

But Ms. P, I think you should ask him and see what type of answer you get. Although, be careful because if he is in a real relationship he needs to be clear about that too. He may just want to talk about some things that he feels he needs to say. And you did say you guys were together a long time and it's been a year since your break up. With long-term relationships, it can be hard to shake someone and it can take many years to do so. It is possible there’s unresolved feelings there, but do you want to open the door for that? And if you do reach out to him and find out that he wants to rekindle something with you then you need to know where that other woman stands if there is someone he’s seeing.

I hope that with any of my previous relationships, if they want to know what's going on then they will contact me directly. I’ve not changed my number since my early 20s, and I have a public online portfolio with my contact information on it, so I'm not impossible to reach. And if anyone is trying to keep up with me on social media or even on here, I don’t share everything. I only share a few highlights and most of my topics are influenced by your questions and engagements. For instance, if it seems like I keep mentioning someone over and over, it’s because I get inundated with your inquiries. I go with the trend of what you mostly like to read or hear about while still maintaining a level of privacy. So if any of my previous personal affairs want to know about me, then just call me, Fam!

Be safe everyone. 🙏🏽❤️