“Sometimes you’ve got to acknowledge your own faults.”

I started to write this a few weeks ago, but other topics pushed this one aside so I’m finally getting a chance to circle back. First, let me ask, How are you all doing? Is everything good? Before I start, do any of you have anger management issues? Do you get upset at the slightest inconvenience? Do you go off on people? Do you feel your anger is always someone else's fault? If any of this is you or if you seem to always be in the mix of struggling between anger and peace, then baby sit down because I’m going to tell you something you're not going to want to hear: YOU MIGHT BE THE PROBLEM. AND IF SO, YOU WILL NEVER HAVE PEACE.

If and when someone is upset with me and wants to get loud or aggressive. I let them release whatever tension they have. Whether you're a man or woman, I'm going to go ahead a let you be sassy. Especially the men. But the one thing that makes me laugh to myself is when people claim to be happy and in a good place, but so quick to get upset at someone. Sweetheart that’s not a practice of peace.

For people like this, who claim to be happy and tranquil, I just want to say, “Fam, you don’t even know what you're saying. You're just saying because you think it sounds good or it makes you seem like a good person. Sitchoass down in the corner somewhere and think about it. Don’t say a damn thing and just think about what it really means to be at peace.” -- But I don’t call those people out. WHY? Because I'm so good with my life and my growth right now that it would just take away from my blessings and my good vibes. Listen, when I say I’m good, I’m GREAT! Even though I am juggling many things right now, I have steadiness in all of those things. So who ever wants to get upset with me, go ahead and be sassy all you want. Call somebody, talk about me, shoot in the group chat about me, call me crazy, try to disgrace me, go ahead, because a person who doesn't like me isn’t go to say the best things about me, but I know my value to people and the people who do like me know my value, so again, if you're upset with me, give all the sass you want to. Maybe doing that will bring you peace.

People who are so quick to lash out at someone have an immaturity about them or they are around immature people who influence them to act that way.

Here's the thing, if someone isn't stealing from you, messing with your money, causing physical harm to you, or disrespecting your family, then what’s there to be upset about? Doing all that carrying on for what? What does it serve? Even with people who aren't my favorite people, I still don’t say anything foul about them because I’m cognizant enough that I understand my experience with someone isn’t going to be the same as someone else's experience with them. So what do I look like talking poorly about someone to another person who has a different type of connection or relationship with them? For example, why would I talk about a person to someone they are close to like a family member or a close friend? Number one, I don’t speak poorly of people in the first place, let alone speak of them to people they are familiar with. That’s a childish behavior, or people who are like that either do not have much going on in their lives or just likes to gossip. For instance, elderly people tend to gossip a bit because that helps them pass the time and keep their minds active. Baby, I’m not elderly, nor do I not have a lot going on for me or in my life.

What’s that saying? "Small minds discuss people great minds discuss ideas.”

If your main focus is discussing people, then it’s likely that your emotions are reflective of what others do. If so, your mind and your heart cannot be at peace, no matter that you say. I’m not a simple broad, I’m not trying to figure out whose talking about me or who doesn’t like me. If you don’t like me, that’s a shame for you because I’m awesome. I’ve been through a lot of things that has shaped me and none of my experiences made be bitter about people or life. There’s several people I could be angry at right now and there’s plenty of people I can disgrace and talk about, but what does that do for me? My life and my success is moving forward. Why would I step away from that?

If you are upset with someone and think it’s all their fault, it’s not. There’s a cause to everything and don’t think that you are not part of that cause. So before your start blaming people, think about the type of person you THINK you are vs the type of person you actually are and how you have affected other people with your decisions.

Be safe everyone.