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Someone make sense of this and tell me that me and this person are not the only two people who communicate like this.

*To be clear, there’s no arguments…just a difference of perspectives. He is firm on certain behaviors being okay and affirms it’s not his behavior (although the blueprint has opposing reviews). My stance is how a person behaves can give the wrong impression and lead to unsolicited thoughts or reactions from the person who the behavior is being directed towards and the people around them. Everyone has a choice on how they choose to be and what they entertain. And sometimes being extra friendly with people isn't good conduct because what if that person you're being extra friendly with starts thinking you're developing something special with them?

  • Like the man who kept driving the same girl home, but claimed there was nothing going on and one of you said, “There's no such things as Uber??? Or she has no other friends???

  • Another example is if you’re invovled with someone, but you still give people the impression you're not by doing or saying certain things that allows them to think you’re completely unattached. And it’s never good to act that way with people who know the person you're intimate with because everything always gets back around. — Just like in the Open Relationships topic, don’t let the nonsense get back to your main one.

Anyway…

Usually after the lengthy back and forth, I assess the overall content and conclusion and look for the lesson, insight, or positive summary. — When you start to look at people as investment towards your life or even progress in life, you may start to look at all your connections with a different set of eyes.

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Mixed Words Raya L.

I wasn’t anticipating on writing a topic like this and it's going to be very short, but things happen in life that can invoke certain unexpected topics. So this guy I know, we seem to have very unorthodox conversations at times. Sometimes they are so confusing and fckd up I just don’t understand how we keep getting through them. But we do and we laugh about it afterwards and then we talk about vinyl records. I think we’re both fckn nuts. Like how do you go toe to toe with a war of words with someone and come out of it talking about Jill Scott’s first album?

And this isn’t our first offense, this has been going on a span of years, we're basically pros at these mind fck conversations. And I literally asked him why do we still entertain each other and all he could say was, “Great question!” and I’m not sure if he actually gave me an answer because he says I make up my own theories about things and that I need to stop wondering about everything which led me to another thought.

People are puzzles and I like puzzles. I like observing their behaviors and piecing together why people do what they do. That’s probably why I chose psychology for my undergrad. And oh do I use that degree to it's fullest and I have a say about everything. I will admit, I do tend to push people out of their comfort zones at times and it can be a bit controversial or argumentative because of my tactics. Ummm, I very head strong, to say the least. And I don’t think a lot of people are receptive to that and even this guy, I don't think he’s receptive to it either so again, I don’t know why he keeps conversations up with me.

Like I said, I think we’re both out of our fckn minds — in the best way — and I don’t know why we do this and it’s a constant puzzle that I can’t solve. Maybe that's why we’re keeping this up. Well I can’t speak for him, but maybe that’s why I still keep entertaining it?

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Added Response Raya L.

🙂 Overall, I appreciate that we do move forward and find things to laugh about, that's the best, but when we’re in the midst of those heavy conversations, sometimes I think to myself, “WTF is wrong with us??!!” 😆 Someone, please make it make sense! 😅