“I’ve realized I'm not attracted to men who don't recognize accountability for their decisions.”

I’m sure many of you know by now that I’m a sports girl, mainly football. I did not really start watching college football until a few years ago when I was studying at University of Alabama where I saw first hand and intense the support for college football can be. Now Dieon Sanders who goes by the “Coach Prime” moniker and he is someone I watched when he was playing the game. He’s gained a lot of momentum in recent years for coaching college football.

Coach Prime has a very forward attitude and sometimes people aren’t appreciative of it and call him egotistical, but let’s talk about this for a moment. This man has experienced many elements of the game and has confidence in his way of doing things. Is his way always right? IDK, but he’s got to where he at because of his ways and from the outside looking in, I do not find too much faults in his journey to success. Now, some decisions he’s made may have upset people, but they were decisions he felt was best for him and his career. What’s the issue with that?

Listening to him talk can be a little bit much because his delivery is very aggressive, but what he says isn’t entirely wrong. He thinks highly of himself, but shouldn’t we all? Why are people upset because he has good self-esteem? And people will say, “It’s always all about him”, but at the end of the day, Coach Prime has to think about his health, happiness, and well-being, and if there are things that are not conducive to that, then yes, he will be obtuse or dismissive of it. So again, what is wrong about that?

Because when someone says to me, “It’s all about you, it’s your world.” Sometimes it feels like a dig…what gathers you to say that to me? Is it because I still thrive and continue to move forward and not play mind games with people? Is it because I can still smile and be positive when people disappoint me? Is it because I speak up when I don't like how I’m being treated? Is it because I have my own mind and won’t conform to you? Is it because I’m a leader and not a follower? Is it because I’m very headstrong? Which is it?

You have to think, sometimes what people say to you directly is a reflection of their own battles, and that battle isn't with you. I just know I cannot have weak minded people close to me or people who succumb to their vulnerabilities and don't realize it. We all have weaknesses and make poor decisions at times, but the difference is people who learn and recover from those poor choices vs people who continue to make them and avoid accountability.

I think Coach Prime and people with his similar attitude and confidence are good just the way they are. People like that have a goal, are determined to reach that goal, and don’t allow anyone to deter them from it. Why should that type of ambition rattle anyone? Process-driven and goal-oriented people all have characteristics that not everyone will understand or appreciate because they speak a language not everyone used to and they don't handle everyone with kitten gloves. Coach Prime only owes it to himself to succeed. He may have a team that he’s building up, but how he does that is at his discretion and it most likely aligns with his vision of success. Now think about how this paradigm relates to you and your values in life, your ambition, your determination, and your success.

Be safe everyone. 🙏🏽